Oh Dear

My head’s in the clouds,
My head’s in the clouds once again

I’m looking, but I’m not really looking
I’m listening, but I’m not really listening
To anyone or anything around me.

‘Cause I’m not even sure why I’m here,
Oh dear,
I’m here again.

My head’s up in the clouds once again,
Mhmmmmmm

It seems that everyday, I struggle through the same pain
Of living life once again
A circle spiraling
Over and over,
Once again.
I’m here again.

Mhmmmmmm

Now my head’s in the clouds
My head is up in the clouds once again.
My dear,
My baby, oh dear.

Are you looking, are you really looking
Or listening
To anyone or anything around you?

When your head’s in the clouds,
When your head’s up there in the clouds
There’s nothing and nowhere.
Just time and space,
Between you and I,
Just ‘being’
Up in the clouds once again,
My dear, oh dear.

Dreams & Reality: Round 1

Dreams…

Reality…

What are they?

They both seem so real. Or rather they are real. Every night I wake up to my dreams, and everyday I wake up to this ‘reality’. Sometimes there’s no way in telling where I’m at, I lose track… both are so vivid. Conjuring all kinds of emotions and images, affecting every aspect of my thoughts… changing the way I see things… changing… always changing.

Lately I’ve pondered on how one can prove that they are now currently awake, and not dreaming. Is it physical pain? The logical time frames? The limitations of science and the laws of physics? Somehow it makes sense… but also far from being a viable truth.

It’s been over a year now since I’ve taken this, almost, obsession with dreams and dreaming. I don’t have nightmares anymore, or rather I don’t consider them as nightmares… they’re just mishaps and misfortunes… I just learn to let go and let the darkness fill me until I shiver and sweat in my wake. In most cases there’s nothing you can do, you have no control over your (sub)consciousness. I just let it show me what I need to see and what I need to feel.

Every so often you hear, experience or know of blood shed, rape and outright torment. Some consider this a nightmare, but to the victims, it’s their reality. Sometimes denial may convince them it didn’t happen. Is it then right to impose acknowledgement and torment them psychologically for the rest of their lives? Or is it better for them to think of it as a hellish nightmare that they soon will wake from and move on, but treading lightly?

That’s the thing… reality can have so many complexities at every given moment, simultaneously haunting your mind and your body. Some can go crazy from all the pressure and stress. So, in this sense, is this not a giant continuous nightmare? There’s no denying that there are moments of relief, moments of ecstasy, moments of enchantment and fascination. But don’t dreams display the same perplex pool of emotions and physical distress?

Dreams, to me, are far less complicated. Although we experience them in a jumbled and random order… they show everything in broken down clips, a montage illustrating a larger concept of my (sub)consciousness. Is this the flaw in thinking that the dream is our actual reality? The fact that there is no order. No control.

But what if our dreams were our actual reality? A chaotic realm lacking order and any form of control. A world where not a single one of us holds any control or structure in our lives? What if we never had the keys to our own fate? What if this reality, our ‘reality’, is our dream? A realm with control and order, where we are able to mold our own destiny and not given to us. We are able to tell our own story, and try to have some form of control with what we experience and what we don’t. What if all of these are the things that we’ve longed for our whole lives? So we escape to dream of this reality. And sometimes we wake up in this reality and forget what happened because sometimes it’s a gift to forget, especially painful memories.

So we choose to believe that this is our reality, and choose to base our knowledge and perception through the experiences of this reality. Is that why there are stories and beliefs of a higher being, able to control our destinies, holding our fate? Do some of us go about living our lives disproving the existence of a higher being due to their desire to forsake relations to the ‘dream reality’ where we aren’t the determinants of our life? Is this why we crave control and power? To rid of the notion that we live in a chaotic nonsensical world.

Most importantly, who is to say that there is solid proof that we are in our reality and not dreaming? Much like our dreams, can’t we dream of everything that we do in this realm?

I’m not saying that I truly believe that our dream world is our real world. But I’m just fascinated by the complex manner of trying to disprove the theories regarding each side. So there is no solid proof (?) just a feel for strong justification. Funny. Don’t you think?

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The Fool

Inhale… Exhale…… flick the thumb, then repeat. Inhale… Exhale……

“Let it cuddle your lungs, let it drift off of your tongue”, I told myself. Staring into the night sky. Looking for a star to catch my eye. There’s one. No wait… that’s too bright to be a star, it may just be a satellite…

Funny that. So relevant to so many aspects of this urban day to day life… “If it’s too good to be true, then it probably is”. Just don’t get fooled, “don’t be a sell out”. That’s what everyone says, cause what everyone wants to be is a genuinely unique individual. Outside of the norm. That one star that shines brighter than the rest. To be ‘the best’. But what is it that makes someone the best? Because somehow in our world, being a sell out, being fake, is the best way to become ‘successful’ and to be the ‘best’. It’s sad really. How the more genuine people are always left unrecognized, not invisible, but left unmentioned. It’s almost as if our whole system is built around a falsified image of individualism. They say to be yourself, to be you. That you can make anything out of your life, to become anyone you want to be. But sooner or later, they ask you to change. No. They force you to change… To adjust yourself to become that missing piece in their big puzzle. To be a part of the whole system. Go to school, get a job, have a family, grow old and maybe go to a retirement home. It’s expected, and needed.

For some reason, our lives start to become a lifelong monetary struggle. You can’t get by without any financial support, and that to me is a little strange don’t you think? How a piece of paper can determine how you live. That’s how they get you, that’s how they force you to become part of their system. They want you to be involved with the community marketing and consumption. Fed by the greed of power, the greed for money, the greed to be on top. The top of the ‘food chain’. But no one really stops to think about what it really means to be on top… instead they plunge themselves into a lifetime full of artificial emotions of love and power from fake friends and materialistic objects that one day won’t be needed, or one day become redundant.

I used to be that guy, always flashing their money and paying for who ever comes around. Seeking for some form of happiness, some form of friendship in this new land that I had found myself to live in. I made so many friends, no doubt, and so many girls… damn. But as I grow older, I start to become more sensible. I start to recognize the value of money in our society, and the fabricated emotions that come alongside it. I stopped giving so much, stopped being so naive. Now I find myself, sitting here trying to recollect all the memories that I spent and all the efforts that I put in, through money, to make these relations and to pursuit a form of happiness. But all I see now is a mockery, of me, being so naive in spending so much for those who care so little. I don’t see them anymore. I don’t hear from them anymore. Now all these emotions are stuck in a hollow abyss in my memory. I never know what to do with them anymore. Useless.

But lucky for me, I was able to find true friends, those who would always be there no matter how little I can give. They always attempt to connect with me, no matter the distance or condition. Now I find myself feeling better and slightly lighter. My head’s steering away from the clouds and moving into the sunlight. I don’t need the constant intoxication to help myself from feeling something, and something real. I now realize that I don’t need to shine so bright, and I don’t need to hide the truth. Stop myself from being anyone else. I just need to be me.

But this idea of being me, a unique individual, just seems so cliche for a story book ending. That special one ‘being’ that makes me feel like I’m, in a sense, on top. But no matter how much I think about it I always end up questioning; who has the the right to define what I’m suppose to do in this brief existence of life? No one. Just me. And I guess that’s as much power as anyone desires… To have full control of a person’s life, and that one person is to depend on you no matter what. To act and feel like a God. Does that make me, my own personal God? Or at least feel like one. But as a human man all I can do is respond to what’s around me and adjust with my flaws. Social pressure. Political pressure. Financial pressure. Regulations. Rules. Expectations. The list can go on. All of which inflict wounds on my personal being, sometimes catalyzing or giving  birth to more flaws. It hurts… sometimes. But sometimes it helps me feel ecstatic. So I guess I’m no God to myself. I don’t see myself in any way perfect.

Our society is shit.  “Just don’t be fooled, don’t be misled, and don’t be discouraged to do what you want and can do”, that’s what they tell me. But you know what? Sometimes it’s just easier to be the fool to get by. It’s shit.